What does it mean by being introverted? Was it part of my being? was it necessary? To answer these questions, I came to realize it wasnโt just me. These thoughts are running at the back on my mind.
Entering adult life has been a huge thing in my life lately. I have been in a constant search of my own personality and who I truly am as a person. Along the way I came to realize that not everyone fits into my own world and I am slowly learning that I am bound to lose someone somewhere along my journey. I am not trying to tell you that this is the standard thing for growth and adulthood, I just want to share to you guys my thoughts regarding this fall out, something that happened recently. So lets go down the memorylane..
Back in 2022, I met someone at work and it was a start of a good friendship. We hangout a lot and since she was a jolly personality, we instantly get along fast. The last thing I know, we were inseparable. We ate lunch together, I do errands with her and even go out during our day offs, she basically became my favorite buddy at work, that was until we had a fight on some petty thing related to work. Me, being a Capricorn, it was in my nature to always make sure to perform the job well. I am being strict with that and I can’t help but lose my temper when my colleagues does not mind the work well. I put an effort and I expected them to do it as well. Well that was my first mistake. I admit I was kinda petty during that time but her reaction afterwards made me think back if she is really a friend, A little misunderstanding for some reason really got into my nerves I was surprised my hands were shaking, I am basically teary eyed with her accusations towards me. Yes, I call it ‘accusationsโ because the tone of the message implied I am doing her wrong which I didnt intend to do. Moving forward, I decided to let it go. I had faults in that situation and I admit it, I moved on.
Fast forward to days and months after our first fall out, I started feeling uncomfortable towards her. She always asks me if I am angry even though I am just minding myself in the corner. Mind you, I am an introvert so I seldom talk and I do have my solo moments. I get tired about her questions. The things we did together before wasnโt that fun anymore. I lose interest. I was thinking why but after a careful introspection, I came to realize that I lost my trust towards her. And that is a big thing for me.
I have lots of colleagues and seasonal friends but I rarely consider one as true friend. Someone I can be comfortable with my guards down and someone who I trust would not judge me when Iโm at my worst. I once thought she could be that. Until I was proven wrong.
They always said that, a friend would not make you feel like an outsider. But I felt it more than once with her. That is basically the end of my reaching out. Maybe we arent really meant to be friends but just coworkers. And as open minded as I am, I respect that. We are not everyoneโs cup of tea. So why I am writing this? This is simple an ode to myself that eventhough you lose a friend, it wasnโt just your fault. Its just what it is. Maybe this disconnection is a precautionary measure to prevent future uncomfortableness. That you are meant to have your own path.
Fellow readers, this is a reminder that As your goals shifted, your circle will be changed too. If you ever experience these kind of things always remember to find the lesson in this episode of your life. Learn and grow. Growth is a result of breaking out of something and in this life, make this an opportunity to be better and stronger. You may lose one but you gain you. And sometimes, itโs worth it. You are worth it.
Adios!